Long-distance relationships

“Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is one of those obnoxious, inspirational quotes told to couples in their first long distance relationship.

The distance between you and your partner compels individuality. For many couples, being around each other daily leads to synchrony of personality and behavior. Although this may seem cute at first, it has its downsides. There is little room for growth, and each individual is defined by their partner. In a long distance relationship, you have time to think about your own values, your own goals, and your individual persona.

Society today is obsessed with sex. Talk shows and magazines today tell us that sex is the primary part of a relationship, and although it is important, it should not be the dominant force driving a relationship. There are numerous long-distance relationships that break off due to the lack of physical contact. The great thing about a long-distance relationship is that it can help strengthen the bond that goes beyond the physical between you and your partner, because you have more time to talk to each other about yourselves and about each other. A long-distance relationship fosters communication and trust-building.

When you are around someone constantly, it can be easy to take them for granted. It is easy for couples to get so wrapped up in their daily lives and schedules that they forget to value each other; they get into arguments and become caught up in problems that can lead to a break up. It is a sad truth, but sometimes being away from the person you love can be good for you. Distance teaches you and your partner the value of your relationship, as well as greater appreciation for the time you two get to spend together. You begin missing their laugh, their jokes, and their company.

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A long-distance relationship requires commitment from both you and your partner to work. It requires communication and trust. There will be rough patches, of course, but if each individual clearly knows the reason why they are in the relationship and recognizes their common goal to share life together, then the benefits of the outcome will outweigh the negatives.

“Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle, rather a great reminder of just how strong true love can be.”